Asking for Help

It’s okay. It’s really okay.

First things first: I absolutely believe that you *can* do it, whatever it is. I'm still going to suggest that that isn't a great reason not to ask for help.

Being “probably technically able” to do something on your own and deciding to attempt it without any help or support anyway isn’t really the same thing. Life isn’t a competition where you lose points for asking for help. I know that sometimes it seems like it is, that we have to be big and strong all the time and never show weakness.

And I know it is a point of pride for many of us that we are independent, and we can do things on our own. But remember that this is not about can or can’t, it is about feeling better and not suffering. Falling on hard times is no longer the time to worry about wounding your pride.

You are already hurting on the inside and figuring out how to stop that will probably do your self-esteem far more good in the long run.

No one gets medals for suffering, and frankly, if this was easy to just “fix on your own” you already would have taken care of it. But brain stuff is hard. It’s okay to let someone else help.